YOU HEARD MR. BAILEY USE THE TERM "A WEAK WOMAN." BECAUSE A WOMAN IS A VICTIM OF BATTERING, DOES THAT MEAN SHE IS WEAK?
ARE YOU FAMILIAR -- YOU HEARD ABOUT -- SOME QUESTIONS ABOUT A WOMAN RETURNING BACK AND GOING BACK TO THE BATTERER. ARE YOU FAMILIAR -- I SAID A COUPLE. ARE YOU FAMILIAR -- ARE YOU FAMILIAR WITH ANY STUDIES THAT TALK ABOUT THE EFFECT UPON A WOMAN UPON HER ATTACHMENT OR HER BONDING TO A MAN WHEN SHE HAS BEEN SUBJECTED TO UNPREDICTABLE OR INTIMATE VIOLENCE?
WELL, ONE OF THE THINGS THAT HAPPENS WITH BATTERED WOMEN IS THAT IS SOMETHING CALLED TRAUMATIC BONDING WHICH IS A KIND OF PECULIAR PROCESS, BUT BASICALLY IT WORKS LIKE THIS: WE GET ATTACHED TO PEOPLE WHO INTERMITTENTLY TREAT US WELL, BADLY, WELL, BADLY, WHERE THERE IS POSITIVE-NEGATIVE REPEATED BEHAVIOR. ONE OF THE EFFECTS OF TRAUMATIC BONDING IS THAT WITH TIME AWAY FROM THE ABUSER A WOMAN FORGETS THE NEGATIVE STUFF AND REMEMBERS WHAT WAS GOOD ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIP. I HAVE SEEN IT HAPPEN WITHIN A WEEK, BUT IT CAN CERTAINLY TAKE A LONGER TIME PERIOD.
I WROTE THREE OF THEM.
WE GET ATTACHED TO PEOPLE WHO INTERMITTENTLY TREAT US WELL, BADLY, WELL, BADLY, WHERE THERE IS POSITIVE-NEGATIVE REPEATED BEHAVIOR. ONE OF THE EFFECTS OF TRAUMATIC BONDING IS THAT WITH TIME AWAY FROM THE ABUSER A WOMAN FORGETS THE NEGATIVE STUFF AND REMEMBERS WHAT WAS GOOD ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIP.
NO, NOT AT ALL.